Thursday, February 11, 2010

Nothing Really Matters - Queen.




Hamlet: Lady, shall I lie in your lap?
Ophelia: No, my lord.
Hamlet: I mean, my head upon your lap?
Ophelia: Ay, my lord.
Hamlet: Do you think I meant country matters?
Ophelia: I think nothing, my lord.
Hamlet: That's a fair thought to lie between maids' legs.
Ophelia: What is, my lord?
Hamlet: Nothing.


William Shakespeare
Hamlet

Monday, February 8, 2010

Black or White



People's personalities are largely determined by the way they balance their views of the world with external reality. A personality consists of the enduring, pervasive behaviour patterns that complex, deeply embedded psychological characteristics create. Although each of us may behave differently, one thing we all have are defences that help us deal with the stresses and strains of daily life. The relationships we develop are coloured by the kinds of defences we use.

People who are in trouble psychologically (who have difficulty balancing their internal and external lives) often resort to "splitting" as a way of coping. Splitting is a tendency to see everything as either ideal (all good) or persecutory (all bad). The way these people see themselves as well as others becomes so oversimplified that they fail to appreciate the complexity inherent in human relationships. They tend to see things in extremes when dealing with other people. While people with unbalanced personalities idealize some people, they vilify others. The attitudinal pendulum shifts all too easily.

Manfred Kets de Vries 
The Dark Side of Entrepreneurship